punish me now
“I am sorry, I did not mean to” He stood by the door of my room pleading again “Go away please. Leave my room” I responded calmly “I was trying to pick it up and….” “Young man, just go. Have you finished the mopping? “Yes. It was an accident” “Go. it is not a big […]
playing god in a human world
Intrigues, lies, deception, sexual sins, greed, jealousy, unequal yoke, gambling, treachery, hatred, subtle manoeuvring, disobedience to God’s laws, imbalance of power, hatred, harlotry, wickedness, These are some of the plots which makes the bible The bestseller. Lying on my bed during my teen years, the adventurer in me would be lost traveling with the Isrealites […]
of worldviews, perspectives vs lived experiences
“What is that?” I asked her while pointing to the carton of fruits “Lychee” she said. “How does it taste? I enquired further “It is very sweet” she responded as she picked more into her paper bag. Inside the Mediterranean shop, I quickly picked up a handful and tossed it into my shopping basket. If […]
adjusting to life as an immigrant.
“Your children have never seen you naked? How is that possible? I saw the wheels spinning behind Lucy’s eyes as she blinked astoundingly at Soraya. Two worlds were colliding here. “Yes. This is the first time they would share bathroom with me. What business does my children have in my room when each person’s room […]
Immigrant Parenthood: a man’s world
“You saw how clueless I was when my baby began crying. The women here had to step in and take over. If I was back in Nigeria I would never take a baby out of the house on my own. said a frazzled ‘deji as he started contributing to the discussion” The Nigerian in me […]
of travels and worldviews
I shuffled wearily into the hall and sat on the first sofa by the door. Camp was taking its toll on me. The seat closest to the door was vacant and I made a beeline for it. A middle-aged female sat there. I plopped myself beside her. And as it happens, we eventually got talking. […]
the fallacy of absolutes
“The way coffee is consumed here is the same way we take soft drinks back home” I pointed to a Coffee Shop as we walked through the Promenade. “Except of course that Nigerians consume more than the other countries” “Not true. The other countries consume more alcohol than us”. Ruqqy replied. We were walking from […]
Of Neutrality and Flexibility
“How were you invited to the party and your brother was not?” I prodded as we cycled around the Park. “I don’t know” “But aren’t you all in the same class?” I tentatively asked during this mother-and-son bonding session. Drawing water out of this well when he does not want to talk is an art I […]
THE BEAUTY OF A CEMETERY
“I am a Nigerian”.
“We do not die”.
Okay, let us paraphrase that.
Why Emotional Intelligence can sabotage you
“You seem to be very high on managing your emotions” “yes, I have a very high emotional quotient” “and I see it is helping you a lot on this journey” “somehow” I whispered across the lines “care to explain?” he prodded “Well, I choose to see the pluses in my situation because there are a […]