emotional intelligence is overrated: knock down the restraints
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emotional intelligence is overrated: knock down the restraints

It was my then best friend Ojochide who first pointed out my self sabotage. Unfortunately, my save-the-world glasses were still on then. Teenage friends who met in Jos then transitioned to Lagos. We were at the Tejuosho market, Yaba, that day when I began berating her. Again she had lost her cool with one of…

the song and dance of battles vs blessings – a lesson from the seashore

the song and dance of battles vs blessings – a lesson from the seashore

Gamziavo! That was my father’s second favourite mantra. Mr. Gamziavo, as he told us the story, was a stoic who puzzled all the villagers. He always seemed unnerved by happenings around him. While others rejoiced, he stood aloof.  When others cried, he remained unaffected. Why was he like that? According to Mr Gamziavo there is…

enslaved. abused. deported. a tale of the vulnerable migrant.

enslaved. abused. deported. a tale of the vulnerable migrant.

“One more footstep and all these will be over” Hajara looked at the sea entreatingly “You are too young and still have your life ahead of you” her heart remarked “What life does she have? Is this a life?” her head jeered “This life. She is here. Things can turn around, you know” “Ever the…

A simulation of Mordecai selling the idea to his niece

playing god in a human world

Intrigues, lies, deception, sexual sins, greed, jealousy, unequal yoke, gambling, treachery, hatred, subtle manoeuvring, disobedience to God’s laws, imbalance of power, hatred, harlotry, wickedness, These are some of the plots which makes the bible The bestseller. Lying on my bed during my teen years, the adventurer in me would be lost traveling with the Isrealites…

Navigating Anger and Faith: A Candid Conversation on Suffering and God’s Goodness  – 2

Navigating Anger and Faith: A Candid Conversation on Suffering and God’s Goodness – 2

…..missed Part 1? here getting stronger” his plaintive tone cut into me At some point in the conversation; Ruth stood up to get more coffees and after much insistence from both of them, I agreed to a Cappuccino. Although it had begun to rain on a day with a sunny forecast, my stomach roiled at…

Navigating Anger and Faith: A Candid Conversation on Suffering and God’s Goodness

Navigating Anger and Faith: A Candid Conversation on Suffering and God’s Goodness

The man who sat across from me stood up and nodded his goodbye. Ruth, the woman beside me, went back into her book. Earlier when I walked over, she had offered a warm smile and we had started talking. Found out she was another Brit who had lived in Nigeria. She was here with her…

Embracing Vulnerability: Reimagining the Relationship with God in Trials – 2

Embracing Vulnerability: Reimagining the Relationship with God in Trials – 2

Did you miss Part 1? Here.   ……that God left us examples of people who cried out as they struggled; ElijahJonahJeremiah “All these men despaired enough to voice their grievances. Yet God stooped down to engage and assuage each one” “Why did he not get angry enough to shush them up and make them be…